Dear Cheri,

Help!  I need some cannabis relationship advice.

I love cannabis!  The problem is, my girlfriend hates cannabis!  What should I do?

Well, let me begin by saying that asking me for love life advice is somewhat akin to asking Jeffrey Dahmer for recipes.  Nonetheless, this is cannabis relationship advice, and you asked.  

So I will attempt to answer.

The first thing I would ask is why does your girlfriend hate weed?  What is her actual problem with it? 

Begin by making sure that you are using cannabis responsibly and that she doesn’t have a point in thinking that your marijuana use is problematic.

If that’s not the issue, maybe she just needs education as to the facts about cannabis. 

Most of us have been raised on misinformation, fear inducing DARE campaigns in school, and reefer madness propaganda.  On the other hand, most people are intelligent enough to evolve their positions once they realize they have been lied to about cannabis for their entire lives.  But they need to open to learning about the truth before that can happen.

One suggestion is to buy her a copy of my book: Mary Jane: The Complete Marijuana Handbook for Women.  Yes, this is a shameless plug, but honestly when this book came out, I had so many men thank me for it.  They were buying it for their girlfriends, for their wives, for their mothers, aunts, friends, and all the women in their live who were cannabis-phobic.  More than one man wrote saying he had bought multiple copies.

That’s because the book approaches the subject in a non-intimidating way that makes it easy to cut through the nonsense, understand the facts, and have fun while doing it.

Lastly, if your potentially irresponsible use is not the problem.  And if learning the facts and science behind cannabis does not do the trick.  I know what I would do.  I am not going to tell you whether or not to break up with someone over this, but I know what I would do.  Willful ignorance for me is a deal breaker.  I am not saying my partner MUST use cannabis, but if they have a problem with me using this all-natural healing plant, well, I know what I would do…

Good luck and I do hope you find your “happily ever after.”